Really Believe: Free To Embrace Wisdom

Really Believe Wisdom

Most of the time things aren’t the way they seem.

In my previous Really Believe post: Free From Worry, I wrote about how worry must flee when we really believe because of  God’s promises, like Proverbs 3:6.  Well, the verse right before that? Is Proverbs 3:5 (but you knew that, didn’t you. :). And in that verse, God tells us not to lean on our own understanding. It’s like saying, “Don’t believe what you see!”

Let me tell you a story:

Eight years ago, my 5 year old son with autism jumped out the window.  His bedroom was on the first floor, so he had a soft landing.  Five years ago, his bedroom was on the 2nd floor and he jumped out the window again. At first,  he threw some toys out the window and watched them gently glide down (he must have heard the “good angel” telling him not to do it!) Previous experience told him it didn’t hurt to jump out the window.  Larry-Boy did it in the movie, and he flew! These past events led him to believe it would be fun to jump out the window so he decided to try it.  And down he went, gravity chasing him until he hit frozen ground.  (Now he is is 13 and his room is in the basement, just in case!)

In his reality? It is fun to jump out the window.  In truth? He could have broken his neck!  Thank God he had his Baymax-sized angels at the ready! Sage walked away from it with only soreness and a mild concussion!

That is the way it is when we rely on our own understanding, when we believe what we see.

*We get hurt.

*We make bad decisions about relationships that “aren’t what they seem”.

*We walk around in false beliefs about the way situations are, and not even know it!

And by doing so, we are led into so many unnecessary negative experiences and emotions, like anxiety.

John Bloom puts it this way:

And by doing so, we are led into so many unnecessary negative experiences and emotions, like anxiety.

“You see, in order to handle the knowledge of good and evil, one must possess 1) the ability to completely comprehend all possible options and contingencies (omniscience); 2) the righteousness and wisdom to choose the right course; and 3) the power to make reality conform to the right course (omnipotence).

In other words, only God can handle such knowledge…..So many of the things that cause us the most difficulty and heartache in life, the source of so much of our anxiety, fear, doubt, and anger with others and with God, is the result of leaning on our own understanding.”

I know I need to be more intentional about using my spiritual eyes.  Even with goggle sized lenses, only our physical vision improves.  The only way to improve our vision to see true reality, is to lean on God’s understanding.

Then we will be transformed as God renews our minds.  That is why Rom 12:2 tells us “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

If I were to really believe God, I would not fall into the tricks and traps from the enemy, nor would I fall into false beliefs and the consequential reactions.  I would be free from confusion and chaos that misinterpretations of reality lead me into.

We were never meant to lean on our own understanding, just as we know it isn’t best for our children to lean on their own understanding.

Releasing our grip on the physical reality, allows a whole lot of mess to roll off our backs. And by leaning on God’s understanding, we are emotionally and spiritually cushioned by His wise words.

Releasing our understanding frees up our arms to embrace Wisdom. 

But that also means that I must humble myself in the sight of the Lord and let him lift me up (James 4:10) so I can have His view.

He will guide me, He will let me see with his eyes a little bit more than I did before.

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No Long-Sleeved Shirts Please!

No Long-Sleeved ShirtsThis is Stevie, here. I am 10 years old and I do not like to wear clothes. Now that summer is turning fast to a chilly autumn, everyone is worried I will be cold.  They want me to wear sweatshirts or coats, or long sleeve shirts.  I do not want to wear long sleeves. I’d rather be cold than put up with having sleeves on my arms.  Sleeves get in my way, and they are a constant irritant. When I do wear them, I push them up  high above my elbows anyway!  A lot of good that does, and then my elbows are not comfortable either.

When I was little, my skin was covered with an itchy painful rash. It was on my forehead, my eyes, my chin and cheeks. My arms, legs and tummy were covered too. And what was the worst was the tops of my feet!  I couldn’t even wear shoes because they would tie or velcro right on top of the itchy spots! It was horrible

I even remember my eyes itching. I would scratch them in my sleep and then they would hurt so I cried. My mom would come and try to stop me from scratching my eyes.  I think that is when they had me tested for food allergies.  I have a lot of those, it turns out.

One of my allergies is latex.  Do you know how many clothes have latex in them? My mom even found out some of the socks I had? Were made with latex! No wonder I didn’t like socks!  The bands of my underwear had latex, and my carpet was backed with latex.  It was no wonder I was so itchy before we removed all those things!

Even with avoiding latex and the food that makes me sick, my skin is still itchy. Sometimes when I scratch it, the skin will rise up and then it itches even more!  I pinch and twist it to “scratch” the itch so I don’t hurt myself with my nails.  Sometimes I can’t stand to be in my own skin at all, let alone wear clothes on top of it.  That is like wearing 2 skins and it makes no way to get to the itchy spots when they bother me.

When I need to scratch a spot, I will do anything to get to it. I don’t care where I am, I will take off my clothes so I can scratch.

Sometimes loose clothes, like t-shirt sleeves, will lightly brush up against my arm and that makes me cringe. It is like the worst kind of tickle—that light one. I like the deep kind but not the lighter, bugs-crawling-on-me kind.

My mom got me a new kind of shirt that’s stretchy and tight fitting.  I liked that because it doesn’t get in my way.  It doesn’t bad-tickle me either. The only problem is that because it’s tight, it is also hard to get off!  And when I need it off, I need it off right away, so I can scratch all the itches.  I am getting better at asking for help at school now, instead of getting mad and ripping my clothes off. I always ask my mom or dad for help, but since they aren’t at school, I never thought to ask there. But now I do. It’s much better to ask for help than to get really upset.

I just don’t see why I can’t wear the same things all year long.  Short-sleeved shirts and shorts in the winter would be fine with me.  Sure, it’s cold, but that’s ok. I will just be super-fast when I’m getting to and from the bus!  It’s warm inside. So if I layer up and dress for the outside, then I get overheated in the inside. There is just no winning.  I would rather be cold than hot though.  Plus, it is kinda fun to hop off the bus after school wearing shorts when it’s snowing out. My mom always says something about that when I do it. It makes me smile because I’m proud of myself for being me and getting away with it.

This post is written by Stevie's mom, giving voice to Stevie as best she could. This may not represents reality, just his mom's perspective of what her son with autism's reality may be. 

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