Adventures in Extreme ADHD

Adventures in extreme ADHD

My boys with autism and co-exisiting ADHD seem to have an extreme version with a prominent  impulsive/hyper piece. With my oldest son being 10, we have had many years of parenting the "extreme boy".

Here is a list of the top 23 wild stunts they have pulled over the years:

1.  Sage walked into the next door neighbors house without knocking, because he wanted to "meet new people"--age 8

2. Stevie pulled the fire alarm in the middle of the church service, causing the entire building to be evacuated until the fire department arrived and verified everything was ok. --age 5

3. Sage jumped out of the 2nd floor window to fly like Larry Boy. --age 8

4. Sage climbed on top of the counter and dropped his drawers to pee in the silverware tray. --age 3

5.  Stevie streaked through the house wearing only underwear--but on his head, as he scripted his favorite shows and flapped to his hearts content. --age 5

6. Sage climbed to the top of the playground equipment so the school director would go up there to get him down. Once she was up he quickly slid his way down, ran fast to the gate, jumped up high to pull the rope that releases the gate door's latch, and ran clear across the street to the parking lot next door. --age 3

7. Stevie ran away from home barefoot in the Spring when snow was still on the ground. Walked into a neighbors house (his first experience with breaking & entering) where they took him to the sugar shack at the farm at the end of the street. They fed him ice cream and pancakes with maple syrup and called the police. --age4

8. Hope looked out the window one morning to see Sages feet dangling down from the window above. He was "just seeing what the temperature was like". --age 10

9. Sage pretended to be drowning in a local pond, hands waving and raised high, so his in-home supports staff would dive in and save him. --age 8

10. Sage pushed the screen out the living room window and snuck out, entered our old Honda Civic in the heat of summer. We didn't know he was missing until we heard him honking the horn in the extremely hot car. --age 3

11. Sage snuck out his first floor bedroom window and jumped to the ground one early morning. He explored the area a bit and then tried to come back inside but the door was still locked from the night before. We awoke to his little voice outside begging to come in. --age 5

12. Stevie wandered away on evening, no where to be found. The police came with their search dogs and searched the area, neighbors cars, etc. and found he was in our yard the entire time.  Playing happily (and quietly) in the strip of woods by our house. --age 5

13. At Stevie's physical, he put on a great demonstration by climbing up the exam table to jump off, pull the paper out of the paper towel holder, and scream happily as loudly as he could. Then, he proceeded to slap the doctor twice when he tried to examine him! --age 8

14. Stevie figured out how to escape the bus restraints by getting out of it head first and then proceeded to jump on the seat, sit by the driver and attempted to leave the bus via the emergency exit, all while the bus was in motion.--age 5

15. Sage was found sitting in an open window, hiding, at Sunday School on the second floor which was not too far from the roof next door--age 5

16. Stevie stood on the chair at Panera, dancing his heart out and loudly proclaiming, "Waaahaa haaaa!" --age 8

17. Stevie bolted away from home, running down the middle of the street we live on. A neighbor had driven past him and found me looking for him. He kindly drove me to him in time to see that as he ran up the hill, flapping and signing to himself, a car was coming his direction up the hill on the other side. Thankfully, the car turned into the driveway at the very top of the hill and did not run into Stevie. --age 4

18. Sage grabbed the microphone at the cash register beside us as we were in line at Hannaford (local grocery store) and spoke into it with a deep voice, "I want to diiiiiiieeeee". --age 7

19. Stevie was hospitalized for asthma and low oxygen, but still had his fun jumping on the hospital bed and couch, dancing his heart out with his reflection in the picture window overlooking Portland.--age 7

20. Sage slipped into the cashiers space at Target and tried to take over the job of scanning the merchandise. --age 6

21. When in his room for a time out, Sage stood on the post of his bed frame, and unscrewed the light fixture, took it apart and then threw the pieces to it down a small hole in his wall. --age 6

22. While I was taking a shower one day, Sage raced through the house with a screw driver, unscrewing the door knobs and re-arranging them. --age 6

23. On sleepless nights, Sage made a habit of flipping his toddler bed around the room, landing it so it stands on it's head. Then he'd climb up the rungs like a ladder and pull down everything on the shelves up by the ceiling. --age 2

THINGS I HAVE LEARNED:

1. If it happened once, it can happen again.

2. Windows are really just doors sized for little people.

3. Angels really do act as landing pads.

4. Cat's aren't the only ones with 9 lives.

5. Kids with autism have super powers!

6. Never, ever let go of their little hands when out of the house!

8. The saying, "It takes a village to raise a child." is a true story.

TREASURES COLLECTED:

1. God really is watching and protecting these kids!

2. For the kids to still be alive and well, is proof that God has an important purpose for their lives.

3. Laughter really is the best medicine.

Proverbs 17:22  "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength"

 

 

 

 

Treasured Moments at Panera

I wouldn't typically consider tonights behavior something to be treasured, but tonight wasn't all that typical, either.

We had dinner at Panera, at the request of Sage (10 years old, autism/ADHD). This morning he said he wanted to celebrate with a "last chance to go out to eat in August!"  The request was so cute,  we decided to honor it even though it meant "chancing" it with his brother.

Stevie (autism/ADHD/anxiety/food allergies/tourettes-like tics) has had some very unpredictable behavior lately (you can read about that in the previous posts) so we were prepared to leave quickly if needed-- and sure enough, it was needed.

We all sat down at the table with our food and Daddy went to get coffee. This is where it all started to fall apart.

Stevie got that look in his eyes, as he climbed into the chair across from me, pulled himself up to standing and looked around, in awe. Absolute awe.

People started to notice. I heard some giggles... and then he started to do a little jig. A dance--with his hips...and then arms... and then...

"Waah Haaaa-HAAAA!" the loud, fake baby cry from the Dr.Suess's ABC's video game erupted from deep within his soul.

Not an ear was untouched.

Not even the ears of the elderly couples sprinkled about the place.

The college kids diagonal from us started to giggle and cover their mouths in disbelieve at what they saw.  I looked over at them, my face brightening in pink by the second (matching Hopes red face which was getting lower and lower toward the table, and Sages proud-of-his-brother-being-bad face sticking up higher and higher from the table).

She quickly turned back toward her friends at their table. I wanted to tell her it's ok. I mean, really?  What on earth could one do at this point but laugh?

The absurdity was, well, absurd! WHO DOES THAT?

I am still laughing!

I loved seeing the laughter it brought everyone in the restaurant that I could see, and I particularly loved that I was unaware (too much in shock to notice, maybe?) of anyone irritated by him at all. I was also very thankful that I had worn a "Ride for Autism" shirt!

The moments I most treasured, though, was that we ran into 3 people we knew that we hadn't seen in YEARS!  And they just weren't the least bit phased by what they saw. They didn't have harsh words or reprimands, they didn't mention what they heard and saw, they were just glad to see us--warts and all.

And we were glad to see them.

And I was glad to see all the giggling faces as we left.

Now, there's some autism awareness up close and personal!

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Feeling that we got a bit "lucky" tonight (read: didn't get kicked out), I started thinking up what we can do to help Stevie understand the situation and why it's important to behave in public places as well as in the car (in which he continued being out-of-control and unsafe--unbuckling his seat belt and standing on top of his car seat) I had a little brain-storm of sorts...

I decided to use a very annoying obsession of his: Teletubbies.  Maybe, just maybe, he will listen to them if they tell him a social story:

Maybe he'll listen to the Teletubbies?
Maybe he'll listen to the Teletubbies?

And maybe, just maybe, if the Teletubbies keep telling him off, he will get mad at them and move on to something else!!!

A friend loves at all times.  Proverbs 17:17