HOW TO FRY A MOMMY in just a few simple steps:
Child goes missing (briefly)
Child's clothing (all of it) laying by the swing
Said child found naked in the woods
Child drawing on the house with crayon
Child drawing on cars with chalk
Child attempting to pull door off hinges
Child pulling the door paneling off the door
Child pulling outlet cover off the outlet while screwed to the wall
Child screaming unnaturally loudly
Child swooshing dvd player, apple TV gadget & Wii console onto the floor
Child hiding red wagon up the street near the swamp so he could run back to tell me about it
Child running away when called and then sitting in the middle of the street to wait for me
Child cutting his shorts with scissors
Child trying to cut hair with scissors
Child drawing on walls in house with crayon
Child refusing medicine
Child purposefully projectile vomits medicine across the room
Child grabs medicine in cup and spills on the floor
Child attempts to puke up medication multiple times
Child pees on floor in room multiple times a day
Child cleans up floor in room with direct supervision multiple times a day
Child poops on floor in room and tracks it all over room
Child throws electronics
Child pours milk on computer
Child pours milk into coffee and then onto iPad
This is the incomplete list of ONE child's summer "fun" out of our home of 4 little darlings.
And some times, this may be a list completed all in one day!
Anyone else out there relate to this?
Oh, the joys of summer "break" with kids who NEED nonstop structure and simultaneously do NOT WANT that structure put in place for them.
Yes, I have tried:
Negative reinforcement (out of desperation)
Did I mention praying?
I followed all recommendations from those who recommend, to the best of my ability considering I have other children to care for...
And I sit here typing with my beloved coffee to help me keep up with them just a little bit better than I have been,
and I am fried!
A CHURCH, A VILLAGE, AND A SCHOOL
Despite all my failed attempts to curtail my son's behavior, all is not lost:
God has heard my cries for help!
IT TAKES A CHURCH
God prompted a dear friend from our church and MOPS to ask how they could help and took it upon herself to find people who may be able to help us!
We aren't meant to do this life alone.
We are meant to do it in the context of community, especially with the help of the Body of Christ.
IT TAKES A VILLAGE
Our case manager has referred us to HCT (Home & Community Therapy) services--intensive in-homes supports with a focus purely on behavior. This service comes with a behavioral specialist, social worker and support staff! This is a short term program that usually lasts 6 months. Then, the long term specialized in home supports services will be in place that focuses on behavior and daily living skills.
And best of all? There is ZERO waiting list. We will probably meet with the agency next week or two!
This is huge news considering the past few weeks our case manager said there is no hope of in specialized in-home supports happening any time soon due to a long wait list and a shortage of behavioral specialists.
I am biting my internal tongue that begs to ask the question: Why wasn't this put in place before now? Why are we just now hearing of this option after all my cries for help and queries into WHEN specialized section 28 will be in place...after all my pleas to please get something in place before summer arrived?
But I know that God's timing is perfect. And even though I really think I should have known about this service option before, I also know that it wouldn't have happened until now anyway...because God's timing is just right. All the time. (Isn't that a nice tidbit of truth to defuse the situation?)
IT TAKES A SCHOOL
Sometimes, it takes a Church, a Village AND a School...
On top of this incoming help, and the start of services in the next few weeks... THIS week, SUMMER SCHOOL STARTS! Three days a week, 4 hours a day plus travel time....my boy will be in school.
Out of the house!
In a routine! (which is the primary reason FOR summer school)
And NOT bored!
Help is on the way!
And I could not be more grateful or more welcoming of this help that God is providing.
The floodgates have been opened.
A time of refreshing is on the way!
WORDS OF WISDOM
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
I would love to hear YOUR thoughts!