Fried Mommy With A Side Of Coffee

Fried Mommy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HOW TO FRY A MOMMY in just a few simple steps:

 

Child goes missing (briefly)

Child's clothing (all of it) laying by the swing

Said child found naked in the woods

Child drawing on the house with crayon

Child drawing on cars with chalk

Child attempting to pull door off hinges

Child pulling the door paneling off the door

Child pulling outlet cover off the outlet while screwed to the wall

Child screaming unnaturally loudly

Child swooshing dvd player, apple TV gadget & Wii console onto the floor 

Child hiding red wagon up the street near the swamp so he could run back to tell me about it

Child running away when called and then sitting in the middle of the street to wait for me

Child cutting his shorts with scissors

Child trying to cut hair with scissors

Child drawing on walls in house with crayon

Child refusing medicine

Child purposefully projectile vomits medicine across the room

Child grabs medicine in cup and spills on the floor

Child attempts to puke up medication multiple times

Child pees on floor in room multiple times a day

Child cleans up floor in room with direct supervision multiple times a day

Child poops on floor in room and tracks it all over room

Child throws electronics

Child pours milk on computer

Child pours milk into coffee and then onto iPad

 

This is the incomplete list of ONE child's summer "fun" out of our home of 4 little darlings.

And some times, this may be a list completed all in one day!

Anyone else out there relate to this? 

Oh, the joys of summer "break" with kids who NEED nonstop structure and simultaneously do NOT WANT that structure put in place for them.  

 

INTERVENTION PLEASE!

 

Yes, I have tried:

Routines

Prayer

Picture schedules

Praying

Kid-created routines

More praying

Natural consequences

Fervent praying

Positive reinforcement

Persistant prayer

Negative reinforcement (out of desperation)

Did I mention praying?

I followed all recommendations from those who recommend, to the best of my ability considering I have other children to care for...

And I sit here typing with my beloved coffee to help me keep up with them just a little bit better than I have been,

and I am fried!  

 

A CHURCH, A VILLAGE, AND A SCHOOL

 

Despite all my failed attempts to curtail my son's behavior, all is not lost:  

God has heard my cries for help!

IT TAKES A CHURCH

God prompted a dear friend from our church and MOPS to ask how they could help and took it upon herself to find people who may be able to help us!

We aren't meant to do this life alone. 

We are meant to do it in the context of community,  especially with the help of the Body of Christ.

IT TAKES A VILLAGE

Our case manager has referred us to HCT (Home & Community Therapy) services--intensive in-homes supports with a focus purely on behavior. This service comes with a behavioral specialist, social worker and support staff! This is a short term program that usually lasts 6 months. Then, the long term specialized in home supports services will be in place that focuses on behavior and daily living skills.

And best of all?  There is ZERO waiting list. We will probably meet with the agency next week or two!  

This is huge news considering the past few weeks our case manager said there is no hope of in specialized in-home supports happening any time soon due to a long wait list and a shortage of behavioral specialists.

I am biting my internal tongue that begs to ask the question: Why wasn't this put in place before now? Why are we just now hearing of this option after all my cries for help and queries into WHEN specialized section 28 will be in place...after all my pleas to please get something in place before summer arrived?

But I know that God's timing is perfect. And even though I really think I should have known about this service option before, I also know that it wouldn't have happened until now anyway...because God's timing is just right. All the time. (Isn't that a nice tidbit of truth to defuse the situation?)

IT TAKES A SCHOOL

 Sometimes, it takes a Church, a Village AND a School...

On top of this incoming help, and the start of services in the next few weeks... THIS week, SUMMER SCHOOL STARTS!  Three days a week, 4 hours a day plus travel time....my boy will be in school.

Out of the house!

In a routine! (which is the primary reason FOR summer school)

And NOT bored!

PHEW!

Help is on the way!

And I could not be more grateful or more welcoming of this help that God is providing.

The floodgates have been opened.

A time of refreshing is on the way!

 

WORDS OF WISDOM 

 

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

 

I would love to hear YOUR thoughts! 

 

 

 

 

And Summer Begins…

The door slams, the house shakes, the baby wakes, the parents erupt.

Every summer we go through this.  I think I finally found the answer.  It is beautiful (notice the evil grin).

 

This sign alone did not do the trick. This is where I made my mistake last summer.  But NOW I have found the missing piece to go with "Do Not Slam The Door".  And this missing piece is worth more than it's thousand words.  Here it is:

Slam

 

This is my treasure of the day!

Hope and Sage went out to play (well, really they were forced to go outside to play because they were playing wildly inside.) and oh-so-very-gently closed the door!   It is the FIRST time ever!

I put the notice up yesterday, and they each got locked out.  They were not impressed, but the good news is, they were motivated to learn how to close the door gently. (Insert me blissfully smiling).

This summer I have tried to be very pro-active in creating structure for the kids.  My hope is that they will adjust to less structure from a lot of structure more easily that lots of structure to none at all.  We are still in the process of getting used to the new "Summer Fun Routine", but at least it is in place and the kids have something to look forward to each day.

I also made some charts for the twins, and a social story book for Stevie.

Here is what I have come up with so far:

The Rainy Day page (since we started with RAIN this Summer!)

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The RULES page!

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The SCHEDULE PAGE!

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The SOCIAL STORY:

 

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THE REWARD!

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And here's a toast to:  A Good Summer!

So far, it has be rocky at best....but it's only been 2 days :)